Dr Kinnar Shah
Mastering Life’s Playbook: 8 Vital Lessons I Wish I Learnt Much Earlier in Life
I wish I had known a lot of these things much earlier in life.
The problem with wisdom—and most life lessons, really—is that we usually learn them after the fact. The good news is that our experiences and the knowledge we’ve gained can help others.
Let my 8 vital life lessons ignite your curiosity and inspire your journey.
1-Real Problems Will Always Remain Unsolved by Money
Although it can purchase some beautiful “wants” and essentials, money is not a magic bullet for life’s ills.
Many individuals are getting by on very little, but their lives are rich and full of joy, while many more are living on a lot, but their lives are filled with misery and suffering.
Having a lot of money can get you a lot of material possessions—a wonderful house, a nice car, amazing shoes, and maybe even some security and creature comforts—
but it can’t mend a broken relationship, eliminate loneliness, or provide the kind of lasting happiness that matters.
You will never be content if your expectations are to “make it better” with “stuff” you can buy.
2-Take It Easy
When we’re young and starting out in life, we tend to think we need to get everything done all at once.
We must make every decision, map out our life, go through every experience, reach the pinnacle, discover real love, and do it all simultaneously.
Take your time and not jump into anything.
Allow your life to take its natural course.
Take your time and see where it leads you before making a decision.
Sit back, take in your surroundings, savor your meal, and give the other person a chance to complete their thought before responding.
Just give yourself a little time to think about it.
Though it’s admirable and frequently helpful to work towards objectives and make plans for the future, going headfirst into anything guarantees burnout and an excellent way to miss out on life.
3-It’s Not Possible to Please Everyone
“Don’t be afraid of losing people but be afraid of losing yourself trying to make everyone happy.” – Naguib Mahfouz
You should not worry about getting everyone to like or agree with you.
It’s normal to seek acceptance and approval from those around you; however, this should never come at the price of your honesty and contentment
The approval you crave cannot be found in other people. That can only originate internally.
Take a stand, be firm, when necessary, earn respect, and never compromise your principles.
4-Sometimes, Your Wishes Are Not Granted
Everybody experiences setbacks from time to time, regardless of how meticulously they prepare or how diligently they labor.
When we go through life with big dreams and goals, they often don’t match up with what we actually experience.
Life is full of setbacks, and sometimes we simply decide to change our minds in the middle of a project.
It may take a few tries before we discover the correct path, or we may need to make some mistakes along the way.
There’s never failure. Only feedback. So, you should keep learning and moving forward.
5-It’s Okay to Be Uninformed
Nobody is an expert on everything.
It’s acceptable to admit you don’t know anything. You are not made perfect by pretending to be flawless.
No one can possibly know everything; yet we tend to feel bad about admitting when we don’t know something or are unsure of something.
Everybody messes up every once in a while.
Life teaches us lessons along the way.
Plus, no one appreciates an egotist. Showing some flesh makes you more approachable and human.
6-Love Is a Decision, not just an Emotion
Initial euphoria, heart-pounding love, and intense desire are fleeting emotions. That being said, it is not impossible for love to endure.
We must make the decision to let go of grudges, forgive, show kindness, show respect, offer assistance, and remain devoted.
Work is required to maintain a relationship. There are moments when it’s easy and other times when it’s really difficult.
In a relationship, we have the freedom to select how we wish to behave, think, and communicate.
7-It’s Beautiful to Have a Perspective
Usually, when we get anxious or angry, it’s because we’ve lost our sense of perspective.
Everything that goes on in our life appears so significant, so vital, so do or die; nevertheless, when all is said and done, these little setbacks frequently amount to very little.
The argument we’re having, the job offer we didn’t receive, the business setbacks, the unplanned detour, and the item we desired but didn’t receive.
The majority of it won’t matter in 20, 30, or 40 years.
It’s difficult to grasp the big picture when all you know is the immediate situation, but unless it poses a serious risk to your life, move on.
8-Take Stock of Your Blessings
We frequently don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone, and this includes things like our jobs, our families, our friends, our health, and the money we currently have or believe we will have in the future.
It feels like your parents will be there for you forever while you’re young, but they won’t.
You don’t have as much time as you would like to spend with new acquaintances or reconnect with existing ones.
Nothing in your life, not even the people you love, is certain to survive tomorrow.
Life lessons aren’t easy to come by, but this one could be the most crucial: everything can change in a flash.
While you still can, take stock of your blessings.
I hope these 8 vital life lessons have given you some inspiration and possibly some insight. And I’m sure you have some you’d like to add that we all would love to hear.